Do You Know Your Worth?

By: Dr. Porsha Dodson & Jamare Harris

Knowing your worth is a topic that comes up often. Whether we are talking about the relationship

or the job. While I believe that a lot of us pretend to know our worth, we are actually struggling to define it in its true definition. Scratch that- we have yet to even discover “our worth” in its truest definition.

What we want and what we deserve are often in competition with one another. When you’re dating, your standards are “too high” or “unrealistic.” In your career, you haven’t reached that level of pay or respect because you haven’t “put in the time” A lot of our life is attempting to attain something that another human deemed the standard.

So is it safe to say we don’t know our worth? What we know is what other people have deemed worthy...I don’t know about you, but I refuse to rate my worth based on someone else's ideas! I believe that what we can start doing is digging deep into what truly matters to ourselves. What makes you excited to wake up? How do you want to be treated? How do you view respect? How do you value relationships? What do you want to get out of life? How do you want to affect change? What do you feel that you deserve?

How long has it been since you’ve asked yourself any of those questions? You take yourself wherever you go and you are the only one that has to live YOUR life. Let’s go into this new season not attempting to live for other people. And I hope that you know that you are worthy by your standards and your standards only.

Be well.

Woman of Strength

Dodson Psych Services

Being a strong woman has always been glorified in our society. A pat on the back for how much you can juggle has somehow become a badge of honor. Well, let me be the first to say, we are TIRED. There is a significant difference between a “strong” woman and a woman of strength. A strong woman can be reactive, responding to each and every thing with force and no tact. A woman of strength knows time and place, balance, gentleness, when to use her strength and how. I aspire to be a woman of strength. A woman who knows how to best use her voice and her power in each situation. I no longer want to be “strong”, carrying things that don’t belong to me and being overworked and underappreciated. I want to lighten the load so that my divine feminine can be impactful, enlightening, meaningful and effective.

I want to check my response to disrespect. I want to release the desire to control everything. I want to be slow to anger and quick to understand. I want to be clear so that I can make sound decisions that I can be happy about. I no longer want to subscribe to being “strong”. That is too big a burden to bear. I want to know when I need help and not to be afraid to ask. I want to understand that real strength is having boundaries, holding a community mindset, forgiveness, kindness, thoughtfulness, intuitiveness and holding space for mistakes.

I hope that in your journey, you are constantly discovering and redefining yourself and that you may always know that you are deserving of all things that are meant for you. Here is permission to be a woman of strength...

Be well.

Real Healed Girl

"It's a Healed Girl Summer"

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Hot girl summers are fun… a healed girl summer is much more rewarding and courageous. In a world where everyone wants to be a “Hot Girl” who wants to be a healed girl? I know that I certainly do. However, I understand that being healed takes more than hashtags, yoga, tea and sage. Healing is getting down to the nitty gritty. Healing is reopening old wounds. Healing is confronting your parents and challenging your upbringing. Healing is telling your toxic partner that you will not continue this toxic cycle with them, and leaving. Healing is breaking generational curses. Healing is tumultuous, hurtful, painful, and NECESSARY! So, how do we start? I’m so glad that you asked.

Commit to the growth of the most important person, yourself. Your job, partner and children require you to be whole and healthy first before anything else. Honey, if you are not whole and healthy, you will be offering broken pieces of yourself to the things and people that you love the most. You will be showing everyone around you that brokenness is acceptable, and it’s not. We only break to rebuild.

We plan to have a healed girl summer at Dodson Psych, we hope that you join us. Bring us your broken pieces so that we can build together. Happy June and always...